How to be a good wife?

It’s very important to be a good wife if you wish to keep your family out of problems. And doesn’t matter what kind of problems: financial or psychological.
Follow some rules and you will be over the moon.

Be confident in yourself

If he is tired or comes late from work, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you anymore. If he is with you, it means that he wants to be. You will look sexy for him, even if it isn’t so.

Remember that treatment and readiness take part from the same list of characteristic “To be sexy”. Self-respect is good for marriage. Assure that your life is still fun and interesting.

Show your feelings and express your needs

Don’t wait till the moment when he will want or ask something. Take the initiative - ask him things that you need. If something is wrong - tell him and discuss about this. As you know, the problems can’t be solved by themselves.

After some time they become more difficult. Try to do it in time and you should do it calmly, clearly and directly. Some expressions work for you. “I feel bad” obliges him to ask “Why”.

Use this “I feel” often and you will see the difference.

Be realistic

As you know, there isn’t a perfect human from all over the world. Don’t expect that he is “Good”.

If both of you keep trying to have a good marriage, you will have it. Have realistic expectations. Only in this case, you will be able to attain them. Otherwise, you will feel yourself purposeless.

Accept him as he is. Don’t try to change him, because you will lose the beautiful parts which he is ready to offer you and you will never know about them.

Unarm yourself

Don’t be nag and fussy, because it can destroy a marriage. As long as the dishes are cleaned, don’t nag how much time it takes or how much your back aches.
Let him to do things as he likes.
Don’t force him to do them as you want, because it could make him angry. Concentrate your attention on important things, not small ones.

Don’t refuse him sex

Sex is an important part of life for majority men. So, offer him sex when he asks. Don’t refuse him telling him a well-known phrase “I feel seek”. Frequent refuses could say him that he isn’t good at this.

It can even change his feelings to rejection and even indignation. So, make sex as much time as he wants and he will return you this kindness in his way.

Have a fun sexual life

Discuss with him about your sexual life. What things you like more and which not. Don’t be afraid to experience something new with him. Explain him how this thing can change your sexual life.

Which words do you hate at the moment?

Yesterday, my friend told me that she hates some words. I asked her which ones?

She replied me:

“Divorce”
“love”
“sexy body”
“lover”
“bedroom”

I understand her, she has divorced recently. She has a difficult life period and I try to help her.

What about you? Which words do you hate and why?

How to be a good housewife?

I remember when I was a child, everyday I dreamed about adult life. I mean, about a job, to have personal money, not to depend on your parents and so on. I think that all of us had the same wishes.

What irony: now, when I have all these things, I want to be that little girl, without any worries and habitual problems.

Very often, my friends and I played games. The most favorite game was the game when you acted the part of housewives. We met our “virtual” husbands, gave them food, had some discussions and then, as it’s normal, we had children.

Have you had such games? I think that every girl have played this game while boys were playing with their little cars and were fighting with so called “not real rivals”.

Now, the things are just a little different. Most often, the husband works all day in order to support financially the family and the wife takes non-financial responsibilities.

Housewives see to the house, prepare food and take care of children (if they are).

Apparently, this life looks like a boring one, but in fact, everybody has lots of works and there isn’t time for thinking about this.

In order to be a good housewife, I will write some rules. Look here:

- Discuss with your husband about the expectations. Ask him: “What are your expectations from me as a housewife?” and vice versa tell him what you expect from him, as a husband. Don’t be afraid to discuss about responsibilities of both of you.

- Take a break. Majority of housewives think that if their status is “housewife” they should look after the house, children, cook and clean twenty four hours a day. However, if they follow such program, after some time they will get tired. It means that they will not be able to manage the house and the whole nine yards. If you feel the same, it’s time to “recharge the batteries”. Take a pause: visit a spa, do exercises, visit a fitness, go out with your best friends, talk with them about your feelings, listen their advice … Permit him to make some house works: take care of children, preparing some foods and only in this case he will respect you, because he will see how hard could be this work, maybe harder than his office work. I mean physically work.

- Be ready to listen to your husband. Generally, the working men could be divided in 2 parts: some of them, after a hard working day, prefer to sit in front of TV or read a newspaper before talking with you about his daily work, others – start to talk just after the house’s door opens. In both cases you should listen to them and support them.

- Prepare food at home. One of the most appreciate thing when we arrive home is the food which can be prepared in a delicious way. Don’t buy fast-food, buy meal and vegetables from the bazaar and prepare a delicious food at home. Your husband will appreciate that.

- Take care of yourself. I know how compressed timetable housewives have. But, you should find time to take care of yourself, because a delicious food with an ugly waitress – isn’t pleasant for anybody. Amaze him with fashionable clothes and stylish make-up. Flirt with him as much as you can. Play some games, for example when you serve him. In fact, the man likes that.

My delicious coffee

Every morning I drink my delicious coffee.

Mmmm....so tasty.

I would like to recommend it for every housewives.

6 servings (serving size: 1/2 cup coffee mixture and 1 teaspoon whipped topping)

Ingredients

* 6 tablespoons Frangelico (hazelnut-flavored liqueur)
* 3 cups hot strong brewed coffee
* 2 tablespoons frozen reduced-calorie whipped topping, thawed
* Ground cinnamon (optional)

Preparation

Place liqueur in a microwave-safe bowl; microwave at HIGH 10 seconds or until warm. Add warm liqueur to coffee.

Pour about 1/2 cup coffee mixture into each of 6 cups; top each serving with 1 teaspoon whipped topping, and sprinkle with cinnamon, if desired.

Is this real or only a scenario of Hardy Tomas?

I’m reading the book of Hardy Tomas. It is called “The Mayor of Casterbridge”. It is the drama of an English family.

In my opinion, up to this moment the scenario is an ordinary one. But after 2 hours of reading I have changed my mind. What a drag! - The husband has sold his wife and daughter during an auction.

They have been bought by a sailor. Thus, they left for Canada with this sailor. By the way, her husband was drunk when he sold his wife and child.

Oh! Is too late; I close the book and go to bed ….

I can’t sleep. My thoughts are imbued with curiosity. I still think of her sufferings. What else to say? - Some men proved to be betrayers. While thinking, thinking and thinking ….

I feel asleep. I saw a dream, a story with a happy end like in most fairy tales related by my adorable grandma many years ago.

Morning

Tic-Tac. It’s 7 o’clock. The sun’s rays are joyfully playing right on the cover of my book.

I missed it. I don’t delay to open it up and start my exciting reading.

To my surprise, the events turned into another way. I was shocked when I found out that the sailor has been lost in the sea.

The woman’s daughter (from her first husband) died. And after 18 years this poor woman returned to her first husband. Yes, remember! The very traitor!

So, what happened with her first husband? After drunken stupor, he realized what did he do, but it was too late. He kicked drinking at all and in a few years he became the mayor of the Casterbridge and grew rich.

Believe it or not she returned to her first husband and he accepted her.

Moreover, she has convinced him that her daughter Marry-Jane is his. In fact, this girl was the sailor’s daughter. He didn’t know that his natural daughter died immediately after they have been sold to the sailor.

By the time, people from the village in which he was the mayor have heard about his deeds and lost their respect for him.

Step by step he lost his money and he became penniless. Marry-Jane got married with his rival and his son-in-low became the new mayor. The husband started to drink again. All his life was ruined after so many years of success. I am surprised by such an end.

Saturday

All Saturdays, I and my friends use to go out for a drink. As usual, we discuss about all things which happened during the whole week.

So, I’ve related about the read book and its dramatic final. One of my friends has claimed that the wife is stupid and pitiable: “How could she tolerate such life”. The other one has stated: “How could she return to him after his awful deeds?”

All my friends discuss about this book. Finally, we all drew a conclusion “It’s very important to carefully choose the budding husband. Because this is for whole life”.

What about you? What do you think about that? Do you have the same life or maybe yours is better?

How to avoid a family crisis?

Well, well, well. I’m back to continue my post.

Did you miss me? I suppose - yes. I missed you so much all that time I waited edgily.
So, how are you today? I address to housewives – which kind of cooking have you prepare today? I have made a tasty cake – can I feast you?

If you don’t want I will continue with the story about my friend.
As you know, there are lots of different prescriptions for each holiday.

Unfortunately, there are no prescriptions for young couples.
Do you remember how you loved each other in a romantic atmosphere with candles, champagnes and marine products mini-dinners?
Yes, it was so romantic, so excited and appetizingly (not only the dinner but also the sexual partner).

Such prescription can’t be practice by couples who live long time together. You know well each other to play such games or pretend that you are porn-stars.

An old woman risks to look improbable when she wears a short skirt made of black latex. Do you agree with me?

So, guess how the sexual life of my girlfriend at the moment is? No, no, no. Try to guess, not ask me how it is.

Ok. I will tell you. She surprised me. The point is that they make sex everyday. Unbelievable. How much passion could be between them.

She confessed me that they live in this rhythm for the last 10 years. While I turned out was trying to understand what the solution is, she turned red and told about her happy sexual life:

1. Place the bets on the sensitivity. First of all try to like yourself. Believe that “butter” for the body is not nonsense, we can do without, that it makes your skin more delicate. Those pheromones, which are sold in the stores now – aren’t a fiction, in fact they influence the opposite sex. (By the way, you can buy pheromone box and taste it on your colleagues, firstly. I have just tried it and I can’t work at the moment!).

2. Use vaginal beads to train the intimate muscles. I can’t understand what is funny here. While you are laughing, they are used by someone quietly, silently and this person trains the muscles without being noticed.

According to Internet, women buy vaginal beads often: the pleasure is big during the process, and feelings after their usage are like in the faraway youth.
3. Time to time, buy sex toys and use them together with your sexual partner. Try to start with neutral sex toys if the vibrators are contra-indicated psychologically or you know the reaction of your partner.

Modern glamour stores sell, for example, clitoral stimulators; it could be very hard to determine which kind of “game” they are produced for.

That’s why your partner will not be confused with your purchase, if he is educated in a conservative tradition. Don’t you want to buy realistic products, which look awfully?

They aren’t sold in the presentable places. On the other hand, when you visit such places with your sexual partner, you could choose together intimate lingerie, because he wants to see you in such sex lingerie tonight.

So, what is the secret? My girlfriend, 10 years ago, being in a deep family crisis after the second child birth, confessed herself and her husband that she wants something new. As it turned out – he wanted the same. That evening became a real catalyst for their relationship.

Now, they use sex toys time to time and generally they have a creative attitude to the process. They have never had a lack for ideas.

I think that all that is because sex is inexhaustible, and love is eternal.

Confession of housewife

Hi for all! I’m Doris and I’m 25. I’m a modern wife. A lovely wife. A trusty friend. A person who loves her life.

How about some smiles on your face? Ready to get fun? Would you like to come with some trendy ideas, fresh thoughts and reliable advice? Well, feel free to visit this “space” and get satisfaction.

I have created this blog in order to express myself about the main problems related to housewives, my feelings regarding to family, sex and home.

I have discussed with many housewives and I can’t remember at least one couple which has never had a sex problem during their life together.

Nevertheless, every problem has a solution. Ingenious housewives have found lots of ways to overcome misunderstandings in their home.

A friend of mine has resorted to some tricks which saved her relationship.

So, how did she keep her family apart from these ordinary, banal problems?

She confessed to me that the only person who has “lodged” her heart until now is her husband. Meanwhile, she has understood that even the most passionate lovemaking can be boring, dull and unpleasant.

As you can guess, her sexual life has become as colorless as the one of many, many couples from the world.

The same thoughts… The same habits… The same weekend spend with his grandparents…Every day his favorite cake. Every night the same movie… Damn it!

Would not you get sick and tired of these deja vu?

I have never understood the reason why such things happen. None of them is guilty – both partners try to do those things that make each other happy. Unfortunately, the result leaves much to be desired.

Why?

Most probably, I don’t perceive such a simply matter.

Believe it or not, couples’ sex life in a long lasting marriage “limps”. For those who want to contradict me, you just hide this truth or don’t realize it.

It’s a fact. According to sexologists, such twosomes cease to make sex at all.

What to do, ladies and gentlemen? Housewives and girlfriends?

How to rekindle our feelings? How to arouse your sexual appetite?

These are the simplest questions posed by most “healthy” couples.

Sometime I ask myself – what should I do in order to have sex. What should I do to wake his interest in me? I don’t refer only to a deep respect and frank sympathy. I do want sex.

Ouch, I go in the kitchen to prepare dinner for my husband.

I will continue my thought in the next post. See you.

(to be continued)